You’re Not Ungrateful—Help Just Isn’t the Same as Support

Getting Support as a Black Woman often feels
like a struggle. You’re managing everything, showing up for
everyone, and doing it all with a strength that people
celebrate—but what happens when the support you receive still
leaves you feeling unseen and unsupported?


In this episode of Shades of Strong, we’re
breaking down what it means to move beyond surface-level help and
start getting the kind of support that truly holds you. From
understanding the difference between help and support to naming
what you need, this episode offers practical steps to help you
feel fully supported.


In This Episode, You’ll Learn:


Why getting support as a Black woman often feels like
settling for less.

The emotional toll of receiving help that doesn’t truly meet
your needs.

The difference between help and support—and why knowing the
distinction matters.

Actionable ways to name the support that truly makes a
difference in your life.



Key Takeaways:


Help is temporary, but true support ensures you’re never
carrying the load alone.

Naming your needs is the first step toward getting the kind
of support that holds you.

Getting support as a Black woman is about more than
receiving—it’s about feeling seen and valued.



Why This Episode Matters:
Black women are often celebrated for their strength while their
needs are overlooked. This episode is about breaking free from
the cycle of “just enough” and stepping into a space where you’re
fully supported, fully seen, and fully valued.
Resources to Support You:

Take the Support Language Quiz.

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www.shadesofstrong.com



Shirl is the creator of Support Languages and host of Shades of
Strong — a movement shifting the narrative from Strong Black
Woman to Supported Black Woman through language, rest, and real
support.