#32 - Orgasm Inequality - Achieving Parity In Achieving Climax, With Sexuality Scholar And Body Acceptance Activist Melissa Fabello

When Melissa Fabello talks, sex is bound to come up. It’s her
job. As a sexuality scholar and body acceptance activist, Melissa
sees so clearly that diet culture, body image, and sexuality
intersect in ways that contribute to bodies experiencing
oppression.


One example is the lack of permission to bring our body pleasure
and enjoy our sexual selves. From our basic human need to
experience touch as a form of connection, to getting a nice
massage, to the “Big O” when we struggle with our body image we
are also likely to struggle with allowing ourselves to express
desires and to feel pleasure through our bodies.


This is not a chat about “here’s what you need to do to have a
normal sex life.” In fact, Melissa offers a very interesting
answer to this reader question at the end of the show.


This conversation will help you understand that girls and women
aren’t allowed to experience sexuality in positive ways and that
impacts our body image. We discuss the “power dynamics” of
subject vs object in our society and, perhaps more important, how
you can have a conversation with your partner (or yourself!) in a
safe, kind way that can help you grow your body confidence with
your clothes on and clothes off.


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Get to know Melissa


Melissa A. Fabello is a feminist writer, sexuality scholar, and
body acceptance activist whose work focuses on the intersection
of sexuality and eating disorders, striving toward eliminating
size stigma, and bringing a more radical lens to the mainstream
body positivity conversation. She currently works as the Managing
Editor of Everyday Feminism, the largest independent feminist
media site in the world with an audience of several million. She
is also a doctoral candidate in Human Sexuality Studies at
Widener University, where her research focus is how women with
anorexia nervosa make meaning of their experiences with
sensuality.


Find Melissa online


Website: http://www.melissafabello.com

Twitter: https://twitter.com/fyeahmfabello

Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/fyeahmfabello



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