1498 Whose Fault Is It Anyway?

When things aren't going right in your marriage or you
are having difficulties, whose fault is it anyway?


Do you quickly make your spouse the scapegoat, placing all blame
on him? Or are you one who looks in the mirror and sees what part
you played?


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Marriages would be a lot stronger if we all had the guts to look
at ourselves first and see what part of the blame we carry.


But we want the easy way out. Why cause more distress and
frustration when all the blame can be on someone else?


You know the saying, "Life isn't fair."


And that applies to marriage. Marriage is a two-way street. Very
rarely are the disagreements and difficulties one-sided. Of
course, there's always an exception to that rule.


But let's dive into the majority for time's sake. If marriage is
a two-way street, that means two people are responsible for the
results or outcomes, whether good and bad.


Most of us would gladly own up to all the "good vibrations" in
the marriage.


All the good ideas.

All the great attitudes.

All the loving deeds.

All the exceptional experiences.



However, as the struggles become apparent, we are quick to place
the blame on the other person.


He did this.

He would do that.

He should have done this.

He could have.



All logical reasons. Yet the reverse can be said about you.


OUCH!!! That stings!


And boy do I know. I've been faced many times with the Blame Game
pieces all lined up to "prove" I was right and he was wrong.


Where did that get me?


ABSOLUTELY NO WHERE!!!


So why do we keep playing a game that we lose at EVERY time?


That's one question you need to ponder. Because ultimately, you
control only you. As much as you wish you could wave your magic
wand to change your husband into the perfect prince, it's never
going to happen. And what would be the fun in that anyway?


If everything was perfect, there would be no making up. (wink,
wink)


Whose fault is it anyway?


The one thing I've learned is that you focus on what you can
control.
The K.I.S.S. ~ Focus on what you can control!

Honestly, does it really matter whose fault it is anyway?


Think about what you say to your children when one comes and
tattles on the other.


The key is drawing attention to what each party can control.


So when you are talking about a marriage, focus on what you can
control.
Look at the situation from the spouse's perspective. Apologize
for your shortcomings or wrongdoings. Change what you can. Make
adjustments. Love him where he's at.

Does it really matter whose fault it is if you keep the focus on
what you can control?


No, it really doesn't.


Are you ready to put the focus on you and make the necessary
changes, regardless of how hard it is?
"Focus on what you can control. God's got the
rest!"

 


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