Why Do Marriages End?: Mark Goulston

In this information-dense episode, we learn several masterful
points on how to relate better to all those around us. How can we
become better listeners? Why do marriages end? What is the
difference between feeling felt vs feeling understood? What are
the gender differences when it comes to emotional intimacy? How
do you properly respond to your partner’s emotions? Why don’t we
understand how powerful disappointment can be in our lives? 


In this re-play episode, we are featuring one of the most popular
podcasts we have done. Dr. Mark Goulston, psychiatrist and
author, joins us on the SuperAge podcast to share his insights on
these questions. Dr. Mark Goulston dropped out of medical school
twice due to depression. After a school counselor believed in him
and gave him another chance, he finished medical school and
wanted to pay forward what that counselor gave him. That is
exactly what he is doing with his current practice. Dr. Goulston
uses his empathetic personality and ability to listen to navigate
his patients' issues from marriages to eating disorders to
strained parent-child relationships to suicide.


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What you will learn in this episode: 


How empathy and the ability to listen can help strengthen our
relationships

Why some marriages end

Why strong personalities may have a more difficult time with
emotionally intimate relationships, and how to overcome
that 

The power of feeling felt vs feeling understood 

How to respond to your partner’s emotions



“Marriages don’t end because we stop loving each other, but
because we stop feeling liked by each other.” 


“Alpha energy is great for success. It’s not good for closeness.
You know, it’s good to have alpha energy. You can build
something, you can build a business, you can grow it, you can
sell it, you can do whatever, but it’s not that good for
emotional intimacy.” 


“One of the reasons women will say ‘Don’t give me advice or
solutions’ is because when they’re sharing something, they want
to just feel less alone in the feeling, they want to feel felt by
you, because if they feel felt by you, their oxytocin goes up,
their cortisol goes down, their blood flow goes up to their
brain, and then they can give themselves the advice they
need.” 


Listen to the SuperAge podcast wherever you get your pods. 


Connect with Dr. Mark Goulston:
Website - https://markgoulston.com
Instagram -
https://instagram.com/markgoulston?utm_medium=copy_link
Twitter - https://twitter.com/markgoulston?s=11
Read one of Dr. Goulston’s best-selling books - Just Listen
Listen to Dr. Goulston’s audio course Defeating Self-Defeat
https://www.himalaya.com/courses/defeating-self-defeat-3129841?partner-from=15652260&utm_source=partner&utm_medium=mark_goulston


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