23. Grief Shame - The dangers of minimising our own grief - Solocast

Every loss is unique. Every loss comes with its own unique
challenges. But often when we negate the impact of our own grief
because we feel like we can't compare our loss with someone else.
we end up invalidating our own grief experience. 


There is a  tendency to diminish our own grief in light of
someone else's loss, especially if the person we lost is not a
spouse, a child or a parent. However, when we are feeling the
loss of a brother, a friend, a work colleague, but we do not
acknowledge our grief, and when don't give it space to exist and
to be expressed, because it's 'worse' for other people, we then
start to shame ourselves. 


Grief shame is toxic and it festers. Hiding it, denying it,
minimising it, will only bring more distress and struggle. Giving
yourself permission to grief is the best thing you can do for
yourself and for the people you love. 


Love and light,





Tatiana xoxo