36: My Spouse & I Just Fought. I Feel Triggered. How Do I Stay Clean?

How do I come out of an argument with my spouse and NOT relapse?
For many of the men that I’ve spoken to, they can get really
triggered to go to their porn addiction after an argument or a
fight with their spouse. It’s super common. 


Today, I want to talk about why fights or arguments can be so
triggering for us to go look at porn - leading to slips and
relapses - and how we can better handle the shame, anger, and
intense emotions that might come after a fight, so we can stop
watching porn.


We can not only come out on the other side clean and sober, but
heal our relationship with our wife or significant other at the
same time. 


I’ll teach you a 3-letter acronym that gives you a step-by-step
process for how to do this. 


Listen to the episode to learn this 3-step process for staying
clean after fights and arguments.


So, let’s pretend that you’ve just had a heated argument with
your spouse. You both acted bull-headed. You both said things
that you probably didn’t mean. And you’re both worked up. 


Maybe you’re even charged for more conflict if they say one more
freaking thing that rubs you the wrong way… 


Then, the addiction cravings come... Could be for porn, alcohol,
food, video games, TV… Whatever it is, your mind wants to soothe
or escape your difficult feelings through self-destructive
methods. 


STOP Right there! 


This is the moment that you need to halt your trajectory that is
leading to a relapse. Don’t wait. Don’t let craving turn into
planning or deciding to give in to your pornography addiction.
You need to step back and process through your feelings with God
as your companion. 


I’m going to give you 3 practical steps to do this, so you can
quit porn and improve your relationship.


Those steps are S.I.R.


To find out what these 3 simple steps are, listen to the episode.



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