61: Make Friends with the Addict Part of Your Brain | Quit Porn Using 3 Evidence-based IFS Principles

Today, you're going to use 3 evidence-based IFS principles to
learn how to quit porn by making friends with the addict part of
your brain.


IFS (Internal Family Systems) therapy is a powerful framework for
overcoming addiction. It takes a non-traditional approach that
has been studied and utilized for 40 years, and has been shown to
be highly effective. 


Using this approach, you'll discover how to make peace with the
part of you that has consistently led you to porn addiction -
this part that creates destruction in your life right now. 


You’re going to learn how to make it your ally, your best friend,
something that actually helps you rather than hurts you. 


If that sounds strange, don't worry—I’ll explain exactly how this
works. 


If you’re like I was during the many years I was addicted to
porn, you’ve likely become tired and frustrated with this addict
part of your brain that keeps acting against you. You've been
fighting it and trying to shut it up. 


In order for you to quit porn, your frustration and fighting
needs to end, and you need to become connected with this addict
part of you, and see it with more clarity and understanding. Only
then can you redirect it down a positive path, and overcome porn
addiction. 


The label “Porn Addict” does not define you


You’re a good man. I want to say that upfront. I remember feeling
worthless, like I was a terrible person and that's why I couldn't
stop porn. 


You might think, "Jake, that's not true. I'm a bad person. Look
at everything I've done." I used to tell myself those things too.
There was a time I wanted to take my own life. And I came out of
it, and am a better person because of those struggles.


You just have some habits that aren’t serving you or the people
around you. You have this part of you, this addict part, that
takes control sometimes. Instead of the real you—the good
you—being in the driver’s seat.

This addict part takes over, leaving you in the backseat
wondering, “What’s wrong with me? Why can’t I control myself? Why
do I keep doing this to my wife and kids? Why do I know better
but not do better?”

You are destined for a greater life. You just need the right
tools and strategies.

You'll learn them in today's episode.


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