63: Relapse: How to Tell Your Wife About Your Porn Relapse (Without a Fight) Using The 4-Pronged Ownership Approach

You just watched porn. You’ve been working hard to stay sober
and stop watching porn, but despite your best efforts, you
slipped up and now you’re in a dilemma… How to tell your wife
about your porn relapse? 


Relapses are a common part of porn addiction recovery. I would
love it if they weren’t, but they are! It’s just the
reality. 


During the years I was working to quit porn, I relapsed after
a year of sobriety…twice! It was brutally
discouraging, but it was not the end for me. I went on to
long-term sobriety, which has reached nearly a decade
now. 


Relapse does not equal failure. It can be a stepping stone
towards long-lasting sobriety. But only if you have the right
steps in place to deal with the relapse in a way that is
psychologically effective. If so, you can use the relapse as a
springboard to overcome porn addiction. 


If I’m an individual who struggles with pornography addiction,
I’m going to have a much easier time quitting porn if I have my
spouse in my corner. And for that to happen, I need to build the
knowledge and skills necessary to tell my wife about my relapse
with pornography in a way that honors both her feelings and mine,
and helps her feel I’m that doing what it takes to stop porn
addiction. 


Today, I’m going to share with you what I call the 4-Pronged
Ownership Approach for Porn Relapse, a simple structure to turn
relapses into stepping stones for recovery and communicate a slip
to your wife, or other family members, in a loving and powerful
way that leads to the best outcome for both your sobriety and
relationship.

Blog Article: How to Tell Your Wife About Your Porn
Relapse (Without a Fight) Using The 4-Pronged Ownership
Approach


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