The Science of Emotions & Relationships

In this episode, I discuss the biology of emotions and moods in the
context of relationships. I focus on the science of how early
infant-caregiver attachment, combined with adolescence and puberty
shape our adult patterns of attachment. I explain the three
universal aspects of emotions, the reality of right-brain versus
left-brain personalities, and how the roots of adult attachment are
also grounded in specific aspects of puberty. I review what factors
determine when puberty starts and ends, and the role of oxytocin
and other chemicals in controlling how we perceive and remember
others. As always, I refer to various practical tools including new
tools for understanding and predicting our emotions before they
occur, and neurochemicals that shape human connection. Read the
full show notes for this episode at hubermanlab.com. Thank you to
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https://www.wakingup.com/huberman Timestamps 00:00:00
Introduction   00:00:32 Sponsors: AG1, LMNT & Waking
Up   00:05:10 Announcing New Cost-Free Resources:
Captions, NSDR Link   00:07:40 Emotions: Subjective Yet
Tractable   00:10:53 To Understand Your Emotions: Look At
Infancy & Puberty   00:15:21 Your First Feeling Was
Anxiety   00:17:36 What Are “Healthy
Emotions”?   00:19:03 Digital Tool For Predicting Your
Emotions: Mood Meter App   00:21:08 The Architecture Of A
Feeling: (At Least) 3 Key Questions To Ask Yourself  
00:24:00 You Are An Infant: Bonds & Predictions  
00:27:57 Attachment Style Hinges On How You Handle
Disappointment   00:32:40 “Glue Points” Of Emotional
Bonds: Gaze, Voice, Affect, Touch, (& Written)  
00:36:34 “Emotional Health”: Awareness of the
Interoceptive-Exteroceptive Dynamic   00:37:50 An
Exercise: Controlling Interoceptive-Exteroceptive Bias  
00:42:19 Getting Out Of Your Head: The Attentional
Aperture   00:46:59 Puberty: Biology & Emotions On
Deliberate Overdrive   00:47:58 Bodyfat & Puberty:
The Leptin Connection   00:50:34 Pheromones: Mates,
Timing Puberty, Spontaneous Miscarriage   00:54:37
Kisspeptin: Robust Trigger Of Puberty & Performance Enhancing
Agent   00:58:26 Neuroplasticity Of Emotions: Becoming
Specialists & Testing Emotional Bonds   01:00:25
Testing Driving Brain Circuits For Emotion: Dispersal  
01:07:48 Science-Based Recommendations for Adolescents and Teens:
The Autonomy Buffet   01:11:05 “Right-Brain Versus
Left-Brain People”: Facts Versus Lies   01:14:18 Left
Brain = Language, Right Brain = Spatial Awareness  
01:16:15 How To Recognize “Right Brain Activity” In Speech:
Prosody   01:18:32 Oxytocin: The Molecule of
Synchronizing States   01:20:09 Mirror Neurons: Are Not
For “Empathy”, Maybe For Predicting Behavior   01:23:00
Promoting Trust & Monogamy   01:27:00 Ways To
Increase Oxytocin   01:28:34 Vasopressin: Aphrodisiac,
Non-Monogamy and Anti-Bed-Wetting Qualities   01:30:43
Bonding Bodies, Not Just Minds: Vagus Nerve, Depression Relief Via
the Body   01:35:18 A Powerful Tool For Enhancing Range
& Depth of Emotional Experience   01:36:43 MDMA and
Other Psychedelic Compounds: Building A Framework  
01:38:54 Roundup, Various Forms of Support   Disclaimer
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