How Humans Select & Keep Romantic Partners in Short & Long Term | Dr. David Buss

In this episode, my guest is Dr. David Buss, Ph.D., Professor of
Psychology at the University of Texas, Austin, and one of the
founding members of the field of evolutionary psychology. Dr. Buss
describes his work on how people select mates for short and
long-term relationships, the dynamics of human courtship, and mate
value assessment — meaning how people measure up as potential
partners. We also discuss the causes of infidelity and differences
for infidelity in men and women. He explains how people evaluate
and try to alter other people’s mate value as a means to secure and
even poach mates. We discuss monogamous and non-monogamous
relationships in humans. And we discuss what Dr. Buss calls “the
dark triad” — features common in stalkers and narcissists that
relate to sexual and psychological violence in relationships. This
episode is sure to be of interest to anyone single or in a
relationship who seeks to know how people select mates and anyone
who is interested in forming and maintaining healthy romantic
partnerships.  Read the full show notes for this episode at
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https://livemomentous.com/huberman Timestamps 00:00:00 Introducing
Dr. David Buss   00:04:27 Sponsors: AG1, LMNT &
Waking Up 00:08:33 Choosing a Mate   00:13:40 Long Term
Mates: Universal Desires   00:18:31 What Women & Men
Seek in Long-Term Mates   00:25:10 Age Differences &
Mating History   00:32:20 Deception in
Courtship   00:37:30 Emotional Stability  
00:38:40 Lying About Long-Term Interest   00:41:56
Short-Term Mating Criteria, Sliding Standards & Context
Effects   00:46:25 Sexual Infidelity: Variety Seeking
& (Un)happiness & Mate Switching   00:54:25
Genetic Cuckolds, How Ovulation Impacts Mate Preference  
00:57:00 Long-Term vs. Short-Term Cheating, Concealment  
00:59:15 Emotional & Financial Infidelity   01:04:35
Contraception   01:06:22 Status & Mating
Success   01:10:10 Jealousy, Mate Value Discrepancies,
Vigilance, Violence   01:24:13 Specificity of Intimate
Partner Violence   01:25:12 Mate Retention Tactics:
Denigration, Guilt, Etc.   01:27:33 Narcissism,
Machiavellianism, Psychopathy   01:33:25
Stalking   01:39:15 Influence of Children on Mate Value
Assessments   01:43:24 Attachment Styles, Mate Choice
& Infidelity   01:46:40 Non-Monogamy, Unconventional
Relationships   01:54:00 Mate Value Self Evaluation,
Anxiety About the Truth   02:02:12 Self
Deception   02:05:35 The Future of Evolutionary
Psychology & Neuroscience   02:06:56 Books: When Men
Behave Badly, The Evolution of Desire, Textbooks  
02:10:42 Concluding Statements, Zero-Cost Support: Subscribe,
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