Trapped in a Bad Relationship: Why We Can’t Just Leave | S2Epi005

 



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We Love Our Black Men — Sometimes to Our Own
Detriment

When we’re newly coupled up, everything looks like pink tulips
and butterflies — we spend our days daydreaming about him
and the relationship through a pair of proverbial rose-colored
glasses. 


But as soon as the newness wears off, ish gets real and
everything in us is SCREAMING…


 


GET OUT!!!


But for whatever reason, we find ourselves stuck justifying why
we stay and why we continue to accept the behavior that we’re
reluctant to call abuse.


Those on the outside looking in could easily say that being
“trapped” in a relationship is a state of mind, because surely no
one needs consent to leave a relationship, right?


Natty and I beg to differ.  There are countless women
walking the face of the earth everyday going through their daily
routines laughing and smiling, while being STUCK in unhealthy
relationships that range from alienation of affection to
literally fighting to stay alive.
The reasons for staying vary from one woman to the
next, but in this episode we cover the
TOP FIVE REASONS why we often find
ourselves trapped in unhealthy relationships.

 


In no particular order those reasons are as follows:


1. Our PERCEPTION of what constitutes
abuse.  


2. LOYALTY– as Black people, we don’t always
feel comfortable surrendering “our own” to the treatment of a
racially biased police state and as women, we don’t always feel
safe calling police officers who may harm us instead of helping
us. AND when we do speak out or seek help, we too often
experience backlash from members of our own communities who
believe we are airing out dirty laundry and making ourselves look
bad in front of white people.


3. SPIRITUAL BELIEFS — we are more likely to
rely on religious guidance and faith-based practices – Religious
beliefs often discourage divorce, instead encourage forgiveness
and often condemns those who dare to get out.


4. Our attempts to embody the “STRONG BLACK WOMAN”
STEREOTYPE– how we see ourselves


5. SAVING FACE  – guilt, shame and fear


This episode is for every black woman who has been guilted into
silence, for every black woman who’s looking for a way out and
for every black woman who finally got the courage to take her
life back from the unhealthy relationship that stole it from her.


 
YOU, MY BEAUTIFUL BLACK QUEENS ARE THE
G.O.A.T!

 


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Trapped in a Bad Relationship | Recognizing the Signs and
How to Safely Get Out


 


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