How To Have Successful Relationships with Esther Perel

How To Have Successful Relationships | This episode is brought to
you by Rupa Health, Athletic Greens, and Cozy Earth Modern love
comes with an unprecedented list of expectations. Relationships can
of course be a source of amazing connection and joy, but they can
also be really hard. We want our partner to be our best friend,
lover, confidant, coworker, therapist, and so much more. We want
from one person what an entire village used to provide. To take it
a step further, we want a soul mate; we want in another human what
we used to look for in the realm of the divine. We want that person
to help us become the best version of ourselves. I’ve been
extremely lucky in my life with my career and friendships, but
romantic relationships haven’t come easy for me. I was thrilled to
take a deeper look at this part of my life in this episode with my
dear friend Esther Perel. Psychotherapist and New York Times
bestselling author Esther Perel is recognized as one of today’s
most insightful and original voices on modern relationships. Fluent
in nine languages, she helms a therapy practice in New York City
and serves as an organizational consultant for Fortune 500
companies around the world. Her celebrated TED Talks have garnered
more than 30 million views and her bestselling books, Mating in
Captivity and The State of Affairs, are global phenomena translated
into nearly 30 languages. Esther is also an executive producer and
host of the popular podcasts Where Should We Begin? and How’s Work?
Her latest project is Where Should We Begin - A Game of Stories
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Here are more of the details from our interview (time-stamps
correlate with audio version of the podcast):  Our
expectations of romantic relationships have drastically changed
over time (7:42) Our childhood sets us up for difficulty in
romantic relationships (10:42) Why we choose partners who activate
our own specific issues (14:53) What drives couples to divorce and
why the end of a relationship does not necessarily equate to
failure (18:36) What brings couples to couples therapy today vs. in
past decades (23:13) Four relationship killers (33:05) What makes a
relationship successful? (34:27) The card game that Esther created
during the pandemic to incorporate lightness and play into our
relationships  (41:01) How our relationship to giving and
receiving impacts our relationships (51:51) Esther’s main nuggets
of wisdom from her work with couples (1:00:19) Learn more about
Esther Perel at https://www.estherperel.com/ and her new card game,
Where Should We Begin - A Game of Stories at
https://www.estherperel.com/where-should-we-begin-the-game. Follow
Esther on Facebook @Esther.Perel, on Instagram
@EstherPerelOfficial, and on Twitter @EstherPerel.