Why Love Feels So Hard — And How to Finally Feel Safe in Your Relationships (with Jillian Turecki)

When relationships feel chaotic, it’s usually not just about the
moment—it’s old patterns running the show. In this episode of The
Dr. Hyman Show, I talk with Jillian Turecki, relationship expert
and bestselling author of It Begins With YOU, about why love can
feel so hard and how to finally feel safe. Jillian opens up about
her own heartbreak, loss, and transformation, and shares what she’s
learned about healing old wounds and building relationships that
feel secure, balanced, and real. Watch our full conversation on
YouTube or listen wherever you get your podcasts. We discuss: • How
to regulate your emotions and stay connected during conflict • The
difference between past wounds and present triggers •
Science-backed tools you can use to build emotional safety and
trust • Why generosity, curiosity, and respect create lasting
intimacy • How to choose a healthy partner and stop repeating old
patterns Lasting love gets easier when you calm your body,
challenge old stories, practice repair, and try to choose wisely
from the start. View Show Notes From This Episode Get Free Weekly
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15% off your first purchase. (0:00) Introduction to emotional
regulation in relationships (2:27) Jillian Turecki's personal
journey and insights (7:22) Childhood conditioning's impact on
adult relationships (13:12) Techniques for self-regulation and
managing triggers (23:32) Addressing heartbreak, emotional trauma,
and prolonged grief (33:00) Building and maintaining healthy
relationships (38:54) Tools for better relationships and
challenging unconscious expectations (47:06) Exploring the nine
truths about love and unique relationship arrangements (57:40) How
to choose the right partner (1:01:31) Resources for relationship
improvement by Jillian Turecki (1:03:22) Sponsor message