What Makes Love Succeed or Fail? with John Gottman and Julie Schwartz Gottman

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Doctor’s Farmacy, I’m excited to talk to two leading experts in the
field of healthy relationships, Drs. Julie Schwartz Gottman and
John Gottman, cofounders of the Gottman Institute.  Dr. John
Gottman previously served as executive director of the Relationship
Research Institute and is a professor emeritus of psychology at the
University of Washington, where he founded the Love Lab. He is
world-renowned for his work on marital stability and divorce
prediction and has conducted forty years of groundbreaking research
with thousands of couples. His work has earned him numerous major
awards and he was named one of the top ten most influential
therapists of the past quarter century. Dr. Julie Schwartz Gottman
is president of the Gottman Institute and cofounder of Affective
Software, Inc. A highly respected clinical psychologist, she was
named Washington State Psychologist of the Year and received the
2021 Psychotherapy Networker Lifetime Achievement Award. This
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interview (audio version / Apple Subscriber version): The top four
relationship killers (5:18 / 3:20)  The keys to a successful
relationship (6:25 / 4:00)  Love as a practice (27:09 /
22:50)  What makes for a great sex life (31:25 / 27:08) 
How to have healthy conflict (35:11 / 30:52) Breaking out of
reactivity and fight or flight (42:33 / 38:17)  The biggest
predictor of divorce (48:32 / 44:10)  How contempt differs
from criticism (50:57 / 46:42) The origins of contempt (53:13 /
48:55) Top relationship hacks (1:00:13 / 54:24)  Take the Free
Gottman Relationship Quiz and download the Gottman Card Decks app.
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Connection, and Joy here.