Beyond Alpha for Men

In this episode, Karl talks about the impact our father has on our life. Unless you lived a totally idyllic childhood, you are likely to have suffered some kind of "father wound". In Karl's own case, his father died when he was very young but father wounds and resulting behaviour can range from abandonment, shame, a feeling of lack of protection or even an unconscious pattern of self sabotage. Join Karl as these father wounds are un-packed, learn about the different types of "dark father" and the four main ways boys respond as adults to the way they were treated when they were children. 

The five men you are about to hear are host Karl Walkinshaw, Yaron Engler, who brought us together around this subject, Keith Banwaitt, Simon Crowe and Trevor John. You can find out more about them and link with them directly using the links below. https://www.facebook.com/karl33 https://www.facebook.com/simoncrowecoaching/ https://www.facebook.com/trevorblack https://www.facebook.com/keith.banwaitt https://www.facebook.com/yaronenglerpersonal The conversation in this podcast was initially one that was going to remain private between five friends and members of a mens group. But it became clear as we spoke that the conversation should be shared. In the wake of George Floyd’s death, the protests in the USA and UK and the explosion of views on social media many of us are feeling the call to re-examine on our own views on race. As we sat horrified and watched the graphic murder of George Floyd we wondered how this was still possible in the world we live in? And yet we can’t deny the stark truth that not only is it possible but it is not unusual. In fact it’s commonplace for black men, women and even children to be either victims or be victimised by the very institutions that are supposed to protect them. For many, the video of George Floyd’s death woke them up to the fact that we live in a society that is institutionally and structurally racist and that we can’t pretend, anymore, that this is not true. But getting to the point where we see that truth is not easy. It requires looking deeper at what is actually happening and allowing the facts to cut through our own more beliefs about what we thought was true. This is uncomfortable work and it requires over coming our resistance to being wrong. We thought we’d cracked racism. We thought we treated people equally. We thought the world was one way but we were wrong and we can’t just ignore it anymore. Ostensibly, the conversation you’re about to hear is about why it’s hard to talk about race and our own racial bias, why and how we experience resistance and what work we, as white men, might do about trying to create a world where we never have to see the death of another George Floyd. But on another level - this conversation is about how we change and how we grow, as individuals and as a society.

This episode of the Beyond Alpha podcasts contains a special Guided Meditation specifically for men. With the Corona virus still upon us Karl Walkinshaw creates something that helps men step up and lead themselves, their families and their communities. That leadership is needed more than ever right now. This guided meditation will help you explore your choices during this time and be the most resourceful you can be so you can look back on this time  knowing that you remained conscious and resourceful.    

Karl and Lindsey discuss the UK lockdown and provide a framework for understanding the different responses people have had to the crisis. From denial to acceptance and beyond people's responses differ radically depending on their perspective. Join us to connect and understand more about your own responses to what's happening.