Why You Snap Over Small Things as a Parent

Motherhood can be overwhelming - but why does it so often come with
anger, guilt, and shame? In this episode of Parent Unplugged, we’re
joined by Dr Caroline Boyd, clinical psychologist and specialist in
maternal rage, anger, and anxiety, to unpack the question so many
mothers silently ask themselves: “Why aren’t I coping better?” We
explore why maternal anger is so common, why it’s so deeply
stigmatised, and why it has nothing to do with being a “bad mum.”
From broken sleep and sensory overload to being the default parent
and carrying invisible mental load, Dr Boyd explains how modern
motherhood creates the perfect conditions for rage - and why anger
is not the problem, but a messenger. In this conversation, we talk
about: What maternal rage actually is (and why it’s not a personal
failure) Why anger often turns inward as shame and self-criticism
The pressure of “perfect” and gentle parenting ideals Why mothers
feel guilty for emotions they were never taught how to handle The
“drip, drip, drip” effect that leads to explosive moments Practical
ways to regulate anger in the moment How to repair after losing
your temper - with your child and yourself Why compassion, not
control, is the key to breaking cycles This episode is for any
parent who has ever felt overwhelmed, touched-out, overstimulated,
or ashamed of their own emotions - and wants to understand
themselves with more kindness. You are not broken. You are human.
And you are not alone. We talk about different contextual forces at
play that shape our responses to anger. These social contexts are
numerous and varied for every individual, often including important
identities such as race, class and sexuality, which influence how
we feel and express anger.About CarolineClinical psychologist Dr
Caroline Boyd has over 10 years' experience working in the NHS and
mental health settings, and she supports parents from pregnancy to
childbirth and beyond. Caroline offers anger courses, workshops and
1:1 therapy in her independent psychology practice, Parent Therapy
Hub.Caroline is the author of Mindful New Mum, and her published
research explores mothers' experiences of intrusive thoughts about
their babies. Her work has been featured in You magazine, Elle,
Grazia, the Telegraph and Woman's Hour on BBC Radio 4, and she is
an Ambassador for UK perinatal mental health charity, PANDAS.
Caroline shares psychology ideas on Instagram and in the media to
help parents feel less alone and more connected - to themselves and
their children.You can reach Caroline at drcarolineboyd.com or via
Instagram @_drboyd Caroline offers a self-paced anger course for
mothers (USE THE CODE “PODCAST” TO CLAIM YOUR £100 DISCOUNT):
Download Caroline’s FREE GUIDE on how to handle anger in HOT
moments:For an overview of Caroline’s work, including her book,
Mindful New Mum, click here.If you’re struggling with difficult
thoughts and feelings or if this episode raises any concerns for
you, please talk to a trusted health professional such as your
GP.You can also reach out to the services below: UK: PANDAS offer a
free, bookable call service Samaritans – 116 123US: Postpartum
Support International - 1-800-944-4773 (4PPD)For emergency help -
call 999 or visit your local A&E department