The Permission to Be and Not Just the Pressure to Do

He comes to Esther with a question about how to feel worthy without
constantly having to prove himself. For him, it’s not just
personal, it’s also racial. Defining himself on what he calls the
“path of black excellence,” achievement has become both a burden
and a measure of identity. Together, they explore what it means to
experience calm and worthiness, not through doing, but simply by
being. Esther Callings are a one time, 45-60 minute interventional
phone call with Esther. They are edited for time, clarity, and
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