The Trauma Clinic: Why Women Don’t Voice Their Needs in Bed

She moans.
She arches her back.
She says, “Yes, that’s good”—even when it isn’t.


Not because she doesn’t know what she wants.
But because shame taught her to be silent.


Taught her to protect his ego over her body.
Taught her to be sexy, but not inconvenient.
To be desirable, but never demanding.


And when she tries to speak now, her throat still closes.
Her mind goes blank.
Her body remembers what it cost to be too honest.


This week’s voice note goes into why so many women freeze
during sex,
why performance often masks survival,
and how to rebuild trust with your own desire without shame.


We’re not broken.
We were trained to please.


And now, we’re remembering how to want—out loud.


Now live.
This one’s for the women still learning that asking isn’t
dangerous.





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