Revisiting “The Sex Talk You Never Got” with Sam Jolman

Last year, we had a powerful conversation with author Sam Jolman
about his book The Sex Talk You Never Got—one of our
most-listened-to episodes of the year. Now, Sam returns to share
more about the book’s impact and to dive deeper into its themes.


This time, he and Dan explore the biblical story of Amnon and
Tamar in 2 Samuel 13, a tragic account of lust, power, and sexual
violence that resonates deeply with age-old struggles of the
human heart.


Sam unpacks how a man’s sexuality is shaped not only by personal
choices but also by the unspoken legacies of family and culture.
He challenges men to move beyond a simplistic “behaving vs. not
behaving” mindset and instead engage their own stories with
honesty, grief, and healing.


Their conversation also examines the cycle of violence—how
Absalom’s attempt to avenge Tamar only leads to further
destruction. True healing requires humility, repentance, and a
willingness to confront painful histories.


This conversation is a call to courage: to name harm, seek
healing, and embrace a sexuality that honors and protects rather
than consumes and destroys.


Please note that this episode contains discussions of sexual
development and sexual abuse, including rape, and may not be
suitable for all audiences. Listener discretion is advised.


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