The Dynamics of DARVO

DARVO—”Deny, Attack, Reverse Victim and Offender”—is a powerful
manipulation tactic often used to silence those who speak up
about harm. In this episode, Dan and Rachael unpack how DARVO
shows up not only in personal relationships but also in churches,
politics, and other systems where power is protected at all
costs.


Together, they explore the deep psychological and spiritual
impact of DARVO, particularly in narcissistic relationships or
systems. Drawing from Dr. Jennifer Freyd’s work on betrayal
trauma, they name the disorientation, grief, and exile that often
follow when someone dares to speak what is true.


What happens when cruelty masquerades as righteousness? When
loyalty is measured by silence? This conversation holds space for
those heartbreaks—and offers fierce, grounded hope.


In a culture that often gaslights those who cry out for justice,
Dan and Rachael remind us: love, truth, and healing are not just
possible—they are sacred acts of resistance. And it’s not
something we confront alone. With the presence of wise,
compassionate others—therapists, pastors, friends, and
communities of care—we can learn to trust what is true, reclaim
our voice, and boldly participate in the redemptive work of love.