149: BIPOC Sexuality, Tenderness, + the Impact of being Chronically Under Touched with Aaron Johnson

Today we dive into topics that are sensitive + complex in nature-
discussing the black male brute archetype, how it came about +
perpetuates across history and how it impacts sexual expression,
tenderness, + platonic touch for men.


THIS episode depicts the impact  to us + the culture at
large when we don’t take the time to understand nuance. 


Let’s change the cultural narrative by inspiring conversation. If
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In this episode, you’ll hear:




The contextual factors that influence the processing of
trauma, including aspects like race, gender, location, and
ability




The pervasive influence of systemic racism, gender
expectations, and societal biases that hinder safe expression
and emotional completeness




Aaron's personal journey, navigating the layers of his sexual
story as a Black male in the United States




The exploration of our familial legacies, uncovering the
unconscious narratives we inherit and continue to carry




The damaging impact of the "black brute" narrative on our
sexuality and our experience of touch




How systemic oppression has limited access to touch for BIPOC
individuals




The value of community as a resource to reconnect with our
authentic selves




The absence of tenderness and platonic touch within the Black
community




Common narratives that emerge in Aaron's work and the
influence of homophobia




Tracing trauma through various mediums, including pornography
and music, and the importance of vulnerability and embracing
our full humanity in our erotic experiences




The construction of traditional masculinity and the factors
that threaten this identity




Embodied consent practices in the context of tender touch,
exploring what is often missed and nuanced




The supportive role of the kink community for those who have
been chronically untouched







THE SKINNY ON OUR SEXY GUESTS


AARON JOHNSON is a facilitator, public speaker, and touch
specialist who practices closeness as a way to break down
barriers between people. As co-founder of both Holistic
Resistance and Grief to Action, Aaron takes the time to hold the
stories of black people around homophobia, transphobia,
internalized racism, and those that are Chronically UnderTouched.
Because the purchasing, selling, lynching, and commoditization of
the sexual energy of black bodies is a part of historical and
present American culture, the long term impact of those trauma
stories should be acknowledged and held as a map for our
collective healing.





Stay Connected with Aaron:


https://www.holisticresistance.com/


https://www.grieftoaction.com/


https://www.instagram.com/holistic_resistance/








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