32. On Being Sober Curious with Alexandra Nolte

Alexandra has gone by many titles in her life. At the birth of
her spiritual journey she became a yoga teacher and began to
build a brand specific to yoga. Then as her spirituality
flourished, she began to realize that yoga was just a magnificent
gateway to the soul. This is how she poetry, Yogini Poetry, was
born. To this day, sharing her poetry is important and central to
her divine purpose. Currently, Alexandra serves as a women’s
coach and yoga teacher, and co-owner at the Kind Yoga Collective
on then Outer Banks.


Alexandra attended college at East Carolina University where I
graduated summa cum laude with my BA in Ancient History and
Philosophy. It was during this time that she also became a
RYT-200. Next, she attended Florida State University where I
obtained my MA in Philosophy.


As a women’s coach now, she offers weekly and monthly coaching
programs that focus on mindfulness and community. In addition to
offering weekly and monthly coaching programs, she facilitates
the Sober Women’s group called “Clear”. Alexandra’s life goal is
to help create a mindful world full of powerful women. She knows
we are in this together.


In this episode, me and Alex have an open conversation around
drinking in our culture.


We discuss:


-Freedom from validation from others


-Drinking and ideas of finding freedom through it


-Reasons I have reached for alcohol in the past: anxiety,
sexuality, to be free


-What we really want behind the alcohol: true connection


-Events and dealing with uncomfortable emotions around not
drinking


-Alex’s journey with spirituality, loss of identity as an athlete
and how drinking played a role in this


-Why Alex couldn’t quit fully drinking the first time: not being
open to unpacking trauma yet


-Drinking and numbing emotions


-Making space to fully experience negative emotions


-Alcohol and staying extremely busy as a normalized coping
strategy to not feel in our society


-Being sober curious vs. Alcoholics Anonymous (AA)


-Teaching emotional intelligence, adaptive coping strategies in
schools


-Teaching about drug/alcohol education free of fear and shame


-Honoring everyones unique relationship to alcohol whether that
is sobriety or mindful drinking that serves their highest self


-Living in the gray, being self compassionate and allowing for
everyone’s unique path


-Alcohol in romantic relationships: first date drinks, sober
partnerships, and communication


-Drinking behaviors in our family and coping with this


Alexandra’s Website: https://www.alexandranolte.com/


Alexandra’s Instagram: @alexandra.nolte


If you are looking to try 30-days no alcohol or start your
journey through sobriety with a coach, join Alexandra’s group the
Sober Women Group: instagram.com/clearsoberwomen/


Connect with me on Instagram: @madds_baileeyy


Visit my website: madelinebbailey.com/


Intro Music by: Seth Francis


Cover Art by: Tyler Colter