Episode 196 - Interview with Nicky Veenvliet

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In this episode, we had an enlightening discussion with
leadership coach Nicky VeenVliet about the insidious mindset
traps that often prevent high achievers from reaching their full
potential. With over 15 years of experience empowering
executives, entrepreneurs, and teams, Nicky provides insightful
examples of taking ownership, cultivating self-awareness, and
developing emotional regulation.


We explore the tendency of successful people to hit an imaginary
threshold where self-doubt and trauma surface, despite external
success. Nicky emphasises accepting circumstances while taking
action, rather than dwelling on "shoulds" and "fairness."


Another trap is an inaccurate self-assessment which affirms a
distorted self-image. Nicky advocates getting frank feedback from
a coach or therapist to reveal blind spots. 


Nicky explores imposter syndrome in accomplished women who feel
inadequate beneath external confidence. Childhood patterns drive
these fears, requiring therapeutic work to overcome. She notes
our inner dialogue is often far harsher than external feedback.


When staff constantly asks questions, sometimes we reinforce
dependency by always providing solutions. Nicky suggests asking
“What do you think?” instead, which empowers teams to self-manage
and think independently. This parallels coaching children to
solve issues themselves first before seeking
help.   


Nicky points to emotional addiction as another stealth obstacle.
We unconsciously crave the thrill of conflict or victimhood. With
awareness, we can pivot to more positive motivations and
regulation. We share frameworks for setting boundaries, having
difficult conversations and managing emotions productively.


In working with male clients, Nicky uncovers far more intense
shame and reluctance to show vulnerability. Cultural norms
discourage men from openly addressing fears and trauma, which
builds huge pressure. Creating a safe space for men to confide
without judgment is critical. 


Nicky stresses the immense value of seeking outside perspectives
to gain self-insight. We all have blind spots. Feedback requires
courage but enables growth. You don’t need to wait until you hit
rock bottom – continuous learning empowers progress. 

Listen to Nicky's enlightening insights in this episode. If you
relate to the self-limiting patterns she described, don't
despair. We all face doubts and struggles. But with
self-awareness, responsibility, and support, we can overcome
conditioning to achieve personal and professional aspirations.


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