Boundaries in a Marriage with Dr. Monica Polonyi PhD, LPC-S

Although setting boundaries can be very difficult, it is an
essential self-care practice and one which will lead to
improvements in your relationships. If you are fearful of setting
boundaries because you are worried about the possible negative
effects, keep in mind that the better we understand and care for
ourselves, the better we will be able to care for others. Even
Jesus set boundaries! We are joined on the show today by Dr.
Monica Polonyi, who has extensive experience as a counselor
working in numerous different settings. She explains the types of
boundaries that spouses can put in place in their marriages, red
flags to look out for which signal that there is an issue that
needs to be addressed in a relationship, and how to approach the
topic of boundaries with your partner so as to make the
discussion as comfortable as possible (but also remember that
discomfort is okay!). There is no how-to manual for learning how
to set boundaries but this conversation with Monica will inspire
you to get started. 






Key Points From This Episode:


Monica gives a brief rundown of her career as a
counselor. 

A definition of what boundaries are, as they are commonly
misunderstood.

Setting boundaries is a form of self-care, and this will help
you to care for others better.

Examples of emotional and physical boundaries in
marriage. 

Red-flags that are important to be aware of and to be able to
address within a marriage.

The correlation between substance abuse issues and the
disregarding of boundaries. 

Behavioral patterns that people bring into marriages from
their personal lives and how this impacts their current
relationship.  

The use of control as an unhealthy coping mechanism. 

Fears that Monica commonly sees people struggle with when it
comes to setting boundaries in a marriage. 

Advice for how to approach the setting of boundaries in a
marriage, using a garden as an analogy. 

Self-awareness needs to lead to behavioral change in order to
have a meaningful impact. 

Discomfort is okay, don’t run away from it. 

The importance of validation when engaging in a discussion
around boundaries with your partner. 

Why Monica often looks to the Scripture of Galatians
5:22:23. 

Reading recommendations from Monica, and final words of
encouragement and hope around setting boundaries.  







Links Mentioned in Today’s Episode:


Dr. Monica Polonyi Website 


Dr. Monica Polonyi Contact Number - 8329980028


Dance of Anger by Harriet Lerner


Cloud-Townsend Resources


Keep Your Love On! by Danny Silk


The High Conflict Couple by Alan E. Fruzzetti


Safe People by Henry Cloud and John Townsend


Necessary Endings by Henry Cloud


Mosaics of Mercy