Addressing Conflict in Relationships with Mary Lambrecht, LMFT

Today’s episode covers something that pretty much everyone will
go through at one time or another in their lives; conflict in
relationships. It is often joked about that opposites attract and
a common difference that creates that opposition is contrasting
approaches to life. One partner may look at things from a
fact-based viewpoint while another may come from a more emotional
perspective. Really, there is no right and wrong, but these
differing positions can certainly create conflict! When that
happens, what do you do? Local counselor, Mary Lambrecht, hopes
to answer that question in today’s discussion. Mary is a Texas
and Wisconsin State-licensed Marriage and Family Therapist who is
passionate about helping couples learn healthy habits and
patterns in communication and conflict resolution. With Mary,
partners and families learn how core differences,
family-of-origin patterns, and emotional wiring affect their
respect and understanding of the other and, in this episode,
you’ll hear about some of the helpful (and healthy) tools she
teaches for communicating, understanding, and addressing conflict
better. Tune in today to find out more!





Key Points From This Episode:


An introduction to Mary Lambrecht and her practice as a
marriage and family therapist.

Hear about the differences between facts and feelings, logic
and emotions.

Why you might be more fact or feeling-oriented, from genetics
to environmental factors.

What would be helpful for a fact-oriented person to know in
order to better understand and connect with their
feeling-oriented partner.

Understanding that efforts go a long way when we are
hardwired differently.

You don’t have to fully understand your partner’s viewpoint
in order to step into their shoes.

How trauma can compound conflict and cause heightened anxiety
for feeling-oriented people.

Find out how it plays out if this anxiety goes unrecognized;
a common response is to step back or withdraw completely.

How fact-oriented people can use cues to convey their
feelings, dreams, and priorities.

Tips for navigating these differences when they arise:
extending the hand of grace.

Remember that being fact-oriented or feeling-oriented isn’t
wrong or right, just different!

If you detect confusion in your partner, it’s up to you to
clarify what you’re thinking or feeling.

How to know if you need couple’s counseling: if you keep
getting stuck in the same conflict.

Ending on a story of hope: how two partners respected and
made room for each other’s fact or feeling orientation,
perspectives, and needs.

Why there is no task or interaction too small to be
significant regarding honor and respect.






Links Mentioned in Today’s Episode:


Mary Lambrecht, LMFT on LinkedIn


Family Help Counseling & Seminars


Dr. Brent Atkinson


The Couples Clinic


Dr. Susan Johnson


The Gottman Method


The Gottman Institute


The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work


LoveNudge App


Emotional Intelligence in Couples Therapy


The Body Keeps the Score