Oppositional Defiant Disorder: Kellie Cole, LPC, RPT-S

If you have ever spent time around children, you’ll know that
they have a tendency to get cranky, test boundaries, and act
uncooperatively. Today, we’re going to talk about when these
behaviors should warrant a diagnosis of Oppositional Defiant
Disorder (ODD). Regardless of whether or not your child has this
issue, today’s conversation contains a wealth of wisdom that is
relevant to everyone who lives or works with children. Sharing
this knowledge with us today is Kellie Cole, with Compassion
Child and Family Counseling. Tune in to hear about what ODD is,
how Kellie goes about observing a child’s behavior to determine
whether they have ODD, and why it is so important to conduct a
full evaluation before making a diagnosis. Kellie focuses largely
on building the relationship between the parent and the child and
empowering parents to grow out of shame and into the new ideas
that she introduces them to. We discuss why consistency is so
important, the value of teaching accountability, and how to learn
to raise the child that you have instead of comparing them to
others. Join us today to hear how Kellie uses her own stories to
inspire others to build strong connections with their children
and support them as they grow.





Key Points From This Episode:


An introduction to today’s guest, Kellie Cole, with
Compassion Child and Family Counseling.

What Oppositional Defiant Disorder (ODD) is. 

Why it is so important to observe potential ODD symptoms for
more than six months.

Kellie’s observation that ODD is not often a stand-alone
diagnosis, but rather it is a ‘dangler’.

DMDD: Disruptive Mood Dysregulation Disorder.

Multiple diagnoses that are common in children. 

Why it is so important to have a full evaluation to guide
intervention.

Why Kelly sees a child at least three times to confirm her
observations.

Children’s self-reporting abilities and the tools Kellie uses
to interpret how they see their world.

Why Kellie focuses on the relationship between parent and
child. 

The power of choosing to learn to raise the child you have.

The genetic propensity to ODD and other disorders.

Kellie’s approach to treating ODD and why this focuses
largely on the parents’ strategy.

Why consistency is the golden nugget of parenting.

Why follow-through is so important.

ACT: Acknowledge feelings, Communicate limits, Target
alternatives.

The power of giving a child choices to teach accountability.

Why it's okay that your children aren't always going to like
you very much.

Rebuilding self-esteem by acknowledging positive behavior.

The deterioration that can happen around 11 or 12.

Why it is so important for kids to understand consequences
before junior high school.

Being fully committed to the process as a parent.

A reminder that there is no quick fix, and that the focus is
on creating consistent limits and boundaries.

Why you need to remember that you are the consumer when
seeking treatment and therapy.

Why parents are so pivotal for change and have to be a part
of the process.

The importance of checking in on the therapeutic process to
see if it is working for the client.

A story of hope from her practice: Kellie's own child with
ODD, ADHD, and anxiety.

How, when you feel more connected to your child, they accept
your corrections more easily.

Kellie’s hope that other families will learn from her story.

Loving your kids through hard times.






Links Mentioned in Today’s Episode:


Compassion Child and Family Counseling
Kellie Cole on LinkedIn
Kellie Cole on Email