Why We Give Up

We all have given up at some point. All of us at a certain point
have stopped believing that we’ll be able to make it. Some of us
have done it often, some just very few times, but all of us know
how it feels.


The  sad fact is that most of us give up far too soon.


I was thinking the other day - why do we actually give up? What
are the most common reasons and are there any ways to get around
those?


Let’s get to the first reason - discouragement.
No matter what you have decided to do, as soon as you share it
with people there will be at least few who will tell you that YOU
Can’t Do it and come up with different reasons about why it can’t
be done. At that point you may decide to give up the idea even
before giving it a try.  Instead of thinking about giving up
think about how are you going to prove all those people wrong.
Get inspired by the biographies of Michael Jordan, Steve Jobs and
Ray Charles and all others who proved that discouraging words
have no power.


In fact proving those who doubt me wrong has been pretty good
motivation for me so far!


The second reason why people give up is lack of
self-confidence. If you don’t believe in yourself you
will always be tempted to give up because you won’t believe in
your success. The self-doubt will be keeping you from pushing
forward.


I was there too.


I somehow thought that I was not strong enough to make my dreams
come true… but then there was a shift in mindset which sort of
set me free. And it was one simple realization. The realization
that none of the people who have succeeded are better than me.
They worked harder, they were persistent and they believed in
their dreams - but they were not better… and you are as good as
them.


The third reason for giving up may be the lack of
focus. These days there are so many distractions… Social
media, TV series, and different smart phone notifications not
letting you focus on the important things. If you don’t keep
focus on your goal you will end up with insufficient results and
that will discourage you.


That reminds me of yet another reason. We give up when we
don’t see immediate results. We all want things to
happen fast and it is hard to realize that it takes time. There
is no such thing as overnight success so we have to keep in mind
that it takes time and be prepared not to give up at least for
that certain period of time.


The other reason you give up may be that you lack
motivation, enthusiasm and inspiration.


When I am starting something new I am on fire. I am full of
enthusiasm and I am motivated. But with the time things may start
cooling off and at some point the self-motivation may not be
enough to keep me moving. That is when I may think about giving
up… that is when I need to go back to beginning and try to recall
the big why. Why did I start that project on first place and what
was initially motivating me? that brings me back on track most of
the time/


People also give up because they miss their comfort
zone. No matter what kind of life you had - you were
used to it and that brought comfort. Now when you have initiated
changes you entered the stage of uncertainty and struggle, which
by no means is comfortable. What makes me not giving up in those
cases is the thought that once I get where I wanna be my new
comfort zone will be a much better one.


We also often give up because we initially thought that
things would be easier. But then I’d say that anything
worth achieving is hard. Yes the easiest option is to just give
up… but then, will it be easy living with the regret that you
gave up midway?


On the other hand I...