69. After Betrayal: Moral and Ethical Decisions Beyond the Lies and Deception

In our last episode, Marnie talked about how to move forward
after betrayal with a partner who refuses to provide safety,
reassurance, consistency and active participation in the healing
process. In this episode of the Helping Couples Heal
podcast, Marnie and Ilyse continue the conversation, this
time turning the focus to the betraying partner. Just as the
betrayed partner has important life altering decisions to make,
so does the person who caused the relational
destruction. These decisions must be navigated in the spirit
of a fierce commitment to truth and reality, both elements which
were non-existent for the betrayed partner prior to
discovery.  





While both partners have difficult decisions to make in the
aftermath of betrayal, the discussion of the betraying partner in
this context is often neglected or dismissed. In this candid
discussion, Marnie and Ilyse explore some hard questions
including how can the betrayer even consider leaving a
relationship after years of betrayal and deception and under what
circumstances could it be the kindest and most honoring of
the betrayed partner to make the decision to leave.