88. Sober Doesn't Mean Safe

In this episode, Marnie unpacks a critical truth in the betrayal
recovery process: sexual sobriety is not the same as relational
healing. In other words, just because the acting out has stopped
doesn’t mean the relationship is safe or healing. In fact,
ongoing emotional / integrity abuse can re-traumatize a betrayed
partner. 





Marnie explores why emotional sobriety is just as essential as
sexual sobriety, and what it really takes to rebuild trust and
connection after betrayal. A betrayed partner needs emotional
safety, not just behavioral changes. Trust isn’t rebuilt by
abstinence — it’s rebuilt by transparency, accountability, and
empathy.





Simply stopping problematic sexual behaviors (porn, affairs,
acting out) does not address the underlying relational damage
caused by betrayal. True healing involves rebuilding the
foundation of the relationship.





If you've ever said or heard "But I'm sober...”, this
conversation is for you.