208: When a Storming Parent Meets a Storming Child: Choose Connection Over Chaos

In this episode of Real World Peaceful Parenting, Lisa Smith
dives deep into the critical moments when a storming parent meets
a storming child. Sharing relatable examples and practical
strategies, Lisa shows you how to resist frustration, move past
triggers, and get curious—not furious—when your child’s behavior
challenges you. Discover the magic of "scuba diving" to uncover
the feelings and needs beneath the surface, transforming moments
of disconnection into opportunities for deeper understanding and
connection.



What You'll Learn:




Recognize Triggers and Respond Intentionally – Learn to take
a deep breath, pause, and resist judgment when emotions run
high.




Get Curious, Not Furious – Replace reactive thoughts with
curiosity to understand what’s really going on beneath the
surface.




Scuba Dive, Don’t Snorkel – Uncover the unmet feelings and
needs that drive challenging behaviors like grunts,
meltdowns, or withdrawal.




Shift Perspective – Understand that big emotions often have
nothing to do with you; they’re your child’s way of
processing struggles.




Play Detective – Ask powerful, connection-building questions
like, “What’s going on?” to create space for your child to
share.




Transform Storming Moments – Learn how choosing connection
over reaction fosters trust, cooperation, and deeper
parent-child bonds.