15: Maybe Baby with Randi Buckley

Randi Buckley writes and coaches
emotionally aware, deeply contemplative women toward finding
their truth, with depth and beauty, with life’s big questions and
sticky situations.  She is the creator of “Maybe Baby" -
When you hear this whisper of “maybe” in your heart”, “Healthy
Boundaries for Kind People”, and “The Viking Woman
Workshop”. Today we discuss the nature of ambivalence and
our experiences with it. You can reach Randi
at www.randibuckley.com. 


As Randi covers the following areas of ambivalence about
having children, you can expect to hear:


Randi knew as a 6-7-year-old girl that she didn’t want to
have children because she equated having a child with NOT being a
feminist.

She never saw herself as a mother and was horrified when she
heard the whisper of “maybe” in her late 30's.

Randi found that many of her beliefs about motherhood and
childbearing were not her own, but were society-driven.

Randi had initially believed that motherhood would make her
into all the things she didn’t want to be.

It’s ok to be ambivalent, but some people (especially
well-meaning mothers) will try to talk you out of your
ambivalence.

Each woman is the only one who can decide what’s right for
her.  

We have the responsibility to have compassion for the
different roles women play and appreciate those roles.

You can reserve the right to change your mind about what you
want for your life - at any time.

“Maybe Baby” is a 6-week self-study course in which several
hundred women have participated.  The course teaches you how
to find what’s true for you and how to be at peace with it.



Wise Words:  “What’s right for me
probably isn’t right for you!”


I hope you enjoy this episode where we discuss in depth our
experiences with ambivalence. Would love for you to comment on
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