45: Quirky Alone with Sasha Cagen

Welcome! My guest today is Sasha Cagen, an author, coach, and
lifestyle experimenter.


Sasha Cagen helps single and divorcing women in life transition
to figure out who they are, what they want, and to go get it. She
also helps women reconnect to their sensuality and pleasure to
help them get in touch with their unique desires for life. She
does this work by combining her life coaching with a 7-day
transformative tango holiday in Buenos Aires, using tango as a
tool to help women reconnect to themselves and grow their
confidence. Tango is Sasha's passion and the dance brought her to
Buenos Aires.


Sasha is well known as the founder of the Quirkyalone movement,
which she created in 2000 to support women and men who prefer to
be single rather than settle. Sasha’s books Quirkyalone: A
Manifesto for Uncompromising Romantics (Harper)
and To-Do List: From Buying Mile to Finding a Soul Mate,
What Our Lists Reveal About Us (Simon & Schuster) have
received attention on CNN, NPR, and the New York Times.
Sasha is at work on a memoir Wet, which tells the tale of
her own journey of healing from a childhood incident of sexual
abuse through many adventures in sensuality. This book is a
female "On the Road," a story of listening to impulses from her
body to heal trauma, know her own worth, and create a life on her
own terms.


Let’s chat with Sasha!


What you’ll hear in this episode:


Why not having a child was a combination of choice and
circumstance

Sasha, now 43, never found the right partner to embark upon
parenthood in her 30’s.

How she decided to pursue happiness on a travel adventure


“Having a child simply wasn’t something I HAD to do in
this lifetime.”

The difficulty as a woman figuring out what you REALLY want

Sasha never experienced pressure from her family to have a
child; she became her own biggest critic.

Why it’s easy to go into “comparison” mode when around
friends

Sasha’s near-death experience that opened her eyes about the
value of life

How her Tango Adventures became self-exploration for her and
for other spectacular women


“Relationships are not for the faint of
heart.”

Is there an expiration date for a relationship?

The importance of feeling comfortable with your sensuality

Experiencing moments of grief

Sasha’s honesty about the reality of life with a child and
how HARD it really would be

Why she is aware of her needs and limitations

Her creativity is expressed in her passions: writing,
coaching, and tango

Why you MUST be true to your own creativity and your own path

The power and energy of simply being feminine.

I enjoyed this conversation so much and I hope you did
too. What did you enjoy the most about this episode?  If you
enjoyed please share with a friend who would enjoy ;-) To connect
with Sasha, find out more at sashencagen.com