How To Orgasm

In 2019, Brenda took a year off from their PhD program to try to
feel pleasure again…with anything. Brenda has come a long way since
then but there’s one thing that’s still elusive—they’ve never
experienced an orgasm. Whenever they try, anxiety kicks in and
they’re left feeling frustrated and, in their words “broken.” On
this episode of How To!, we bring in Ev’Yan Whitney, sex educator,
author, and host of the podcast Sensual Self. Ev’Yan has some
wonderful wisdom for learning about your body and reconnecting with
pleasure, both sexual and non-sexual, in a way that feels
safe.  Additional Reading:  The Tyranny Of the
Female-Orgasm Industrial Complex by Katharine Smyth Ace by Angela
Chen Sensual Self by Ev’Yan Whitney Understanding Asexuality by The
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