How To!: Build a Marriage That Lasts

To celebrate their third wedding anniversary, Anjali and Rahul are
each selecting a surprise activity to do together. This happy
couple loves spontaneity, so they’re concerned about someday
growing bored in their relationship. They’re also feeling pressure
to mark the traditional milestones of marriage, including having
kids. On this episode of How To!, authors Caryl and Jay Casbon join
us to share the wisdom they gained from interviewing other married
couples for their book Side by Side. The Casbons draw upon their
own 22-year marriage to urge Anjali and Rahul to face conflict with
openness and focus on individual “inner work”—in order to grow
together.  Learn more about Caryl and Jay Casbon here. If you
liked this episode, check out an episode that Anjali loved: How To
Decide Whether to Have a Baby with Wild author Cheryl
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