Episode 005 - 6 Ways to Let Go of The Past

Summary:


In Episode 005, Joseph lists 6 ways to let go of the past.
Dealing with pain and resentment is never easy for any one
person; but, you have a choice to either hold on to the
resentment or free yourself from it and move on. How exactly does
one do this? How do we let go of the past? Listen as Joseph
teaches us the importance of acknowledging our feelings of
resentment, the reasons why we need to let go, and the means by
which this is possible.


Time Stamped Show Notes:


00:01 – Introduction to Mind Your Mind Podcast

00:25 – Today’s topic: 6 Ways to Let Go of the Past

01:01 – When people have resentment and pain, it leads to
poor choices in life

01:33 – Holding on to the past makes us learn from the past

01:51 – The adaptive part of holding on to the past can also
backfire on us

02:22 – “Resentment is like drinking poison and waiting for
the other person to die” – Carrie Fisher

02:40 – #1 Resentment is an addiction

03:21 – #2 We cannot change the past

03:58 – #3 It’s an illusion of strength

04:22 – Real strength comes from moving forward

04:33 – #4 Be aware of your needs



o04:36 – HALT: Hungry, Angry, Lonely and Tired – address your
needs


05:18 – #5 Stop blaming yourself BUT do take responsibility

05:34 – We all make mistakes

06:01 – #6 Meet halfway or get away

06:41 – If you’re feeling resentment, call it out

07:21 – Hear the other person’s hurt instead of their insults


07:54 – Mark from Wyoming asks, “If I’m unable to
forgive my dad for what he did to me throughout my childhood,
will I always carry the resentment with me?”–
Forgiveness is a spiritual and religious choice. To forgive
someone is your own personal choice. The resentment is what you
have to let go.

09:02 – Engage in self-validation to acknowledge your hurt

09:16 – It’s hard to overcome resentment, but we can do it—it
is possible!

09:47 – End of this week’s podcast!



3 Key Points:
In the end, holding onto resentment will just cause more
suffering for YOU.Resentment may be the result of your personal
needs not being met. HALT—are you hungry, angry, lonely, or
tired?People make mistakes—be accountable, take responsibility for
your own actions, and move forward.