Episode 006 - The 4 Habits of Emotionally Intelligent People

Summary:


In Episode 006, Joseph teaches us The 4 Habits of
Emotionally Intelligent People. Unlike the explicit lessons we
learn in school, the real world calls for a more specific
intelligence than book smarts—EQ. In the work environment, every
single person faces social issues and challenges that only their
EQ can solve. Listen as Joseph describes the 4 habits of people
that are emotionally intelligent and provides practical advice on
how you can begin to work on your EQ today.


Time Stamped Show Notes:



00:01 – Introduction to Mind Your Mind Podcast


00:26 – Today’s topic: The 4 Habits of Emotionally
Intelligent People


00:58 – Emotional intelligence is a hot topic from the
‘90s


01:25 –Edward Thorndike, a
famous psychologist in the ‘20s, already identified and defined
social intelligence


01:41 – Daniel Goleman’s Emotional
Intelligencetook social intelligence to another
level


02:00 – 80% of your adult success comes from EQ


02:20 – 75% of careers are derailed because of emotional
intelligence issues


02:39 – John Mayer and Peter Salovey’s definition of
Emotional Intelligence: Having proficiency in 4 specific areas:
identifying emotions, using them, understanding them, and
regulating them


03:00 – “What really matters for success,
character, happiness and life long achievements is a definitive
set of emotional skills–your
EQ–not just purely cognitive
abilities that are measured by conventional IQ
tests” – Daniel Goleman


03:33 – #1 Great Conversation Skills



o03:40 – Making other people feel comfortable
in the conversation


o03:46 – Stop overthinking


o04:27 – Whatever job you do, you’ll be
talking to people



04:52 – #2 Read Social Cues



o05:05 – Figure out why waiters and waitresses
get bigger tips (due to social intelligence)


o05:28 – Socially intelligent people read
social cues


o05:44 – Be non-confrontational and
respectful



06:18 – #3 Have Self-Efficacy



o06:22 – Respect yourself



06:52 – #4 Understand Human Motivation



o07:07 – They know how to harness that power
and use it



07:22 – First practical solution to work on your
emotional intelligence: empathize with other people and
validate them


07:45 – Second: seek first to understand then be
understood


08:34 – Submit your question online atMind
Your Mind


08:46 –Alice from Ohio asks, “My best
friend since childhood has constantly been ignoring my calls,
but then when she finds out I’m with another friend, she gets
angry with me. How do I deal with this?”–
There’s a big imbalance in your relationship – be cautious.
Sometimes people grow apart and have different needs.
Communicate about the issue.


11:19 – End of this week’s podcast!



3 Key Points:
Emotional intelligence or EQ is what brings you more
success in your adult life.It’s important that you
understand emotional cues and empathize with
people.Always have respect for yourself.

Resources Mentioned:



Edward Thorndike– Psychologist from the
1920’s identified emotional intelligence


Emotional Intelligence– Book that took
social intelligence to another level


Mind Your Mind– Tune in and submit your
questions


Dale Carnegie– Book on interpersonal
relationship development by world famous author