Episode 006 - The 4 Habits of Emotionally Intelligent People

Summary:


In Episode 006, Joseph teaches us The 4 Habits of Emotionally
Intelligent People. Unlike the explicit lessons we learn in
school, the real world calls for a more specific intelligence
than book smarts—EQ. In the work environment, every single person
faces social issues and challenges that only their EQ can solve.
Listen as Joseph describes the 4 habits of people that are
emotionally intelligent and provides practical advice on how you
can begin to work on your EQ today.


Time Stamped Show Notes:


00:01 – Introduction to Mind Your Mind Podcast

00:26 – Today’s topic: The 4 Habits of Emotionally
Intelligent People

00:58 – Emotional intelligence is a hot topic from the ‘90s

01:25 –Edward Thorndike, a famous psychologist in the ‘20s,
already identified and defined social intelligence

01:41 – Daniel Goleman’s Emotional Intelligencetook social
intelligence to another level

02:00 – 80% of your adult success comes from EQ

02:20 – 75% of careers are derailed because of emotional
intelligence issues

02:39 – John Mayer and Peter Salovey’s definition of
Emotional Intelligence: Having proficiency in 4 specific areas:
identifying emotions, using them, understanding them, and
regulating them

03:00 – “What really matters for success, character,
happiness and life long achievements is a definitive set of
emotional skills–your EQ–not just purely cognitive abilities that
are measured by conventional IQ tests” – Daniel Goleman

03:33 – #1 Great Conversation Skills



o03:40 – Making other people feel comfortable in the conversation


o03:46 – Stop overthinking


o04:27 – Whatever job you do, you’ll be talking to people


04:52 – #2 Read Social Cues



o05:05 – Figure out why waiters and waitresses get bigger tips
(due to social intelligence)


o05:28 – Socially intelligent people read social cues


o05:44 – Be non-confrontational and respectful


06:18 – #3 Have Self-Efficacy



o06:22 – Respect yourself


06:52 – #4 Understand Human Motivation



o07:07 – They know how to harness that power and use it


07:22 – First practical solution to work on your emotional
intelligence: empathize with other people and validate them

07:45 – Second: seek first to understand then be understood

08:34 – Submit your question online atMind Your Mind

08:46 –Alice from Ohio asks, “My best friend since
childhood has constantly been ignoring my calls, but then when
she finds out I’m with another friend, she gets angry with me.
How do I deal with this?”– There’s a big imbalance in
your relationship – be cautious. Sometimes people grow apart and
have different needs. Communicate about the issue.

11:19 – End of this week’s podcast!



3 Key Points:
Emotional intelligence or EQ is what brings you more success in
your adult life.It’s important that you understand emotional cues
and empathize with people.Always have respect for yourself.

Resources Mentioned:


Edward Thorndike– Psychologist from the 1920’s identified
emotional intelligence

Emotional Intelligence– Book that took social intelligence to
another level

Mind Your Mind– Tune in and submit your questions

Dale Carnegie– Book on interpersonal relationship development
by world famous author