Episode 008 - 5 Steps to Becoming a Great Parent

Summary:


In Episode 008, Joseph discusses 5 comprehensible steps to
becoming a great parent. Challenges and struggles are normal when
it comes to parenting and oftentimes we are left to our own
devices to figure out what works best for our child. Joseph
provides parents with 5 clear steps that can help us become great
parents according to the fundamental needs of our children. He
also refers listeners to three key books that can assist us in
this parenting journey that is a continual, learning process for
us all.


Time Stamped Show Notes:


00:01 – Introduction to Mind Your Mind Podcast

00:28 – Today’s topic: 5 Steps to Becoming a Great Parent

00:42 – Parenting challenges are always there

01:08 – 1 in 7 children in the US are struggling with one
type of diagnosable mental, behavioral, or developmental issue

01:29 – ADHD is a growing problem for many kids

01:36 – Anxiety and depression are also becoming more present
in children of younger ages

01:57 – “A baby is born with a need to be loved – and never
outgrows it.”–Frank A. Clark

02:10 – Joseph believes in the attachment theory – from
cradle to death, we need to be loved and appreciated -John Bowlby

02:28 – “People’s greatest inspirations have been their
parents”

02:48 – #1 Start now and start early



o02:52 – Many excellent books on parenting come from Dr. Haim
Ginott


o03:19 –How to Talk So Kids Will Listen & Listen So Kids Will
Talk by Mazlish and Faber


o03:40 –Between Parent and Childby Dr. Haim Ginott


o04:33 – Many of us think passion and love for parenting already
make us a good parent


05:27 – #2 Validation



o05:35 – Focus on your child’s needs more than your own
embarrassment and meet them where they are at


06:12 – #3 Be an example



o06:31 – You can’t tell a child not to copy you


o06:41 – Show by example and let your children be involved


o06:49 – “Tell me and I forget. Teach me and I may remember.
Involve me and I learn.” – Benjamin Franklin


o07:22 – Don’t blame yourself


07:32 – #4 Provide safety & security



o09:04 – Our children look towards us


o09:16 – Parents need to provide their children a safe and secure
environment


09:55 – #5 Keep learning



o10:08 – Always be open to change


10:16 – 3 parenting books Joseph recommends:Raising an
Emotionally Intelligent Child,Between Parent and Child, andHow to
Talk So Kids Will Listen & Listen So Kids Will Talk


10:54 – Lindsay says, “My teenagers fight all day. Brad
who is 14 is the worst – he’s always complaining that his
brothers and sister get more treats, attention and rewards than
he does. He picks fights with them and ruins the atmosphere.
What should I do?”– Focus on Brad’s needs. There are 3
Fs in parenting – be firm, be fair, and be friendly

12:58 – End of this week’s podcast!



3 Key Points:
Always place your child’s needs before your own
embarrassment—especially when it comes to reproaching them in
public.Engage with your children as they learn best through being
included and getting involved.Be firm, fair, and friendly to your
children as you address their concerns, needs, and frustrations.

Resources Mentioned:


Raising an Emotionally Intelligent Childby Dr. Gottman

How to Talk So Kids Will Listen & Listen So Kids Will
Talk by Mazlish and Faber

Between Parent and Childby Dr. Haim Ginott