Episode 50 - How to Save Yourself From Projection That Destroys Lives

human ego defends itself against unconscious impulses or
qualities (both positive and negative) by denying their existence
in themselves while attributing them to others.[1] For example, a
person who is habitually rude may constantly accuse other people
of being rude. It incorporates blame shifting.


Babylonian Talmud (500 AD) notes the human tendency toward
projection and warns against it: "Do not taunt your neighbour
with the blemish you yourself have."[7]


Victim blaming: The victim of someone else's actions or bad luck
may be offered criticism, the theory being that the victim may be
at fault for having attracted the other person's hostility.[22]
Projection of marital guilt: Thoughts of infidelity to a partner
may be unconsciously projected in self-defence on to the partner
in question, so that the guilt attached to the thoughts can be
repudiated or turned to blame instead, in a process linked to
denial.[23] Bullying: A bully may project his/her own feelings of
vulnerability onto the target(s) of the bullying activity.
Despite the fact that a bully's typically denigrating activities
are aimed at the bully's targets, the true source of such
negativity is ultimately almost always found in the bully's own
sense of personal insecurity and/or vulnerability.[24] Such
aggressive projections of displaced negative emotions can occur
anywhere from the micro-level of interpersonal relationships, all
the way up through to the macro-level of international politics,
or even international armed conflict.[19] Projection of general
guilt: Projection of a severe conscience[25] is another form of
defense, one which may be linked to the making of false
accusations, personal or political.[19] Projection of hope: Also,
in a more positive light, a patient may sometimes project his or
her feelings of hope onto the therapist.


1- Ego Defence accept your own imperfection 2- List positive and
negative fears 3- Be accountable to another human being 4-
Practice seeing things as they are