He/She Cheated. Now What?

I'm often asked, "Why did my partner cheat?" Often an affair is a
symptom. A spouse cheats because there's vulnerability, either in
your partner or in your relationship. Problems can occur if your
relationship has become dry, if you're not interacting with each
other, if the sex life is nil or if there's been some changes where
a lot of the attention is going outside of the relationship. Your
partner may be hungry, and seeking to fill that hunger through
other means. Whether it be through cyber sex, through emotional
intimacy with coworkers or through having an affair. To get to the
heart of the reason for the infidelity, consider cheating to be the
symptom and not the illness. If there's some vulnerability in your
partner - they're feeling lonely, they're feeling bored, they're
wanting some excitement. Perhaps they just got a promotion and
they're feeling really full of themselves and want to act out.
There are lots of reasons why people cheat. What you need to find
out is, why did your partner cheat? What is their vulnerability and
how do you fill the hole between you?