Who You Are vs. Who You’re Called to Be

Fr. Mike recalls the speed math tests he took in second and third
grade. He finished them in decent time, but his cousin—who was in
the same class—finished them way faster. In fact, his cousin was
the fastest in his class. For some reason this led Fr. Mike to
believe he simply wasn’t good at math. When it came to “speak and
spell” though, Fr. Mike did really well. This led him to believe he
was really good with words. He was acting under the common belief
that someone is either good at something or bad at something. In
Carol S. Dweck’s book, Mindset, she speaks of fixed mindsets—like
Fr. Mike had— and growth mindsets, which challenge us to grow. Fr.
Mike shares the findings of a study that observed two groups of
children. The first group was given tests and were told “You’re
really smart” when they finished them. The second group was told
“You really worked hard on that.” When the tests got harder, the
first group started giving up, but the latter group doubled down
and rose to the challenge. God works with us as if we were in the
second group. He sees us for who we are, but approaches us as we
could be. Confession is our opportunity to try harder next time. We
are called to the struggle, because struggle is growth. The victory
is not in never failing, but in getting back up and rising to the
challenge.