Handling Divorce with Melinda Previtera

“Instead of focusing on all the negativity surrounding
divorce—which, let’s be honest, there is,” says Melinda Previtera
of Previtera Law Firm, “I want to change people’s mindsets as to
how divorce can be an opportunity for rebirth and growth through
self-love.” Part of that self-love is maintaining a sense of
independence in a marriage, otherwise people start to desire
control and get resentful and keep score. Individuals and couples
need to be clear with their goals and their purpose, both
short-term and long term, and Melinda helps them do that. Above
all, people have to be willing to change.


Despite the prevalence of divorce in our culture and the upcoming
generations who are foregoing marriage altogether, there is still
a great deal of stigma around the subject. People tend to project
their own indecisions and insecurities onto divorced people, and
value the endurance of a marriage over how much it actually
serves those involved, including the children. Once divorced and
navigating custody, there are important dos and don’ts that
Melinda discusses here.


Join Melinda and Deevo discuss the antiquated beliefs around
marriage, the many lies people tell themselves about what’s best
for the kids, and why divorce is the most radical act of
self-love.


Quotes


• “I want to introduce a new perspective to this transition to
this lifestyle reset is how I describe it, because when the
decision to end the marriage is made, whether it’s made jointly
or by one party, there is an opportunity for growth, evolution,
and a reset in your life.” (8:49-9:12 | Melinda)


• “At the end of the day, everybody going through this process is
in pain, no matter how amicable, it’s a loss and there’s pain.
So, I treat it with that kind of respect and dignity, rather than
trying to win a divorce case.” (14:44-14:58 | Melinda)


• “When you hear ‘we’ve outgrown each other,’ what that means is
one person wants to grow and evolve, and the other person
doesn’t.” (23:40-23:48 | Melinda)


• “I felt like when I was getting judged post-divorce, or even
while I was in the process, I felt like some of the questions I
was getting asked were people’s way of using me as their litmus
on how happy or unhappy they were (41:16-41:29 | Deevo)


• “What’s the most common reason you find people are getting a
divorce in this day and age?”(53:15-53:19 | Deevo)


Links


Connect with Melinda Previtera:


Website | https://www.petrellilaw.com/


Instagram | @lawyeringforlove


Connect with A Little Impolite:


Deevo Instagram | @fusionphotog


Lisa Instagram | @lisastaffphoto


Business Instagram | @sproutconnectors

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