#179: What to do With a Woman's Anger – Ilan Stephani

Anger is one of the scariest emotions for many people to feel.
Often when it is expressed, it is not in a healthy way. But anger
is important and we can't overlook it. It arises in moments when
our boundaries are crossed, our needs are threatened or we feel
disrespected.  

Today's Man Alive guest is a powerful example of a woman who has
gone deep into her own pain to come out the other side with tools
and understandings that work with the core of intense emotions
and experiences. 

Ilan Stephani is the bestselling author of Skin and
Games and a Somatic Researcher in the Fields of
embodiment, sexuality, trauma, health and mysticism. She helps
people unlearn cultural conditioning and gain back your natural
orgasmic aliveness! Ilan helps us understand what to do with a
woman's anger and your own. 


In our conversation we discussed:


Why women can get so angry

Why it can be wise to hate your partner (and how to shift
that!)

How mastering rage, "No," and "Stop" naturally leads to love

How sex becomes natural once people feel safe 

Your body's role in helping you release anger and be more
alive and connected



Ilan's work is a breath of fresh air and is powerful. These ideas
may seem strange at first but she and I agreed that if more
conservative methods worked, people would be experiencing a lot
more love and connection than they are these days. 

We cannot only explore the light side of life. We all feel anger,
fear and grief and we need to bring them to the surface, rather
than holding them in and on our own.



Connect with Ilan Stephani
www.ilanstephani.com


 
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