Emotional Resilience

I believe one of the most important skills you can learn is
emotional resilience.


Emotional resilience is not about suppressing or pushing down or
away “negative” emotions but more how you manage your emotional
and mental state.


Are you feeling sadness, fear, doubt and worry?


Or are you feeling more “positive” emotions like joy, love,
happiness or peace?


All emotions serve a purpose and the ability to access powerful
emotional states and manage debilitating emotions is crucial to
living a purposeful life.


Managing Your Emotional State


If you are feeling stressed or anxious you know when you are on
top of feeling that way or if those emotions are controlling you.


The way to tell is to ask yourself three questions:
How intense is this? Give yourself a number from zero toHow
often am I feeling this way?How long does this feeling stay around
before I begin feeling a little better?

You can know you are managing difficult emotions if
the intensity, frequency and
duration of that emotional state is getting better
or worse.


3 ways to manage your emotional state 


Here are 3 simple tips that can help you “interrupt the pattern”
of a difficult emotional state.
Story – This is the story you are telling yourself about
yourself or the situation or circumstance you areState – This is
the mental and emotional state you experience with this
problem.Strategy – This is the actions and behaviours you use with
this

Create a breakthrough


Have you noticed that you can’t change or control people and
events?


Often other people and events are out of our control. However,
despite being on the receiving end of what other people or events
bring to you – changing either your story, state and strategy are
within your control.


Now that we are clear about that let’s focus on what you can
do.  What’s one breakthrough or change you want
to make in your life? Now identify ONE new:



Strategy you can implement. What can you
do differently?


Story you can tell yourself that changes
the meaning you are putting on this


State you can bring to this



One of the most powerful, simple and fast ways to change your
emotional state is to change your physiology.


Do you notice when someone is sad or upset they tend to look down
and speak more quietly and softly and most of all their upper
body is hunched over compared to when you see someone happy.


They tend to look up and speak louder and faster and their upper
body is upright and straight.


To feel better be sure to move your body the way you do when you
are experiencing positive happy emotions.


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