57. The Benefits of Setting Boundaries

Having boundaries will help your child navigate their world and
give them an understanding of how they can easily meet those
expectations. Boundaries are essentially understanding and
respecting the needs of others and today, I am talking
specifically about your boundaries as their parent.


First, you have to decide what your goal is for setting
boundaries. What is the outcome that you are hoping to achieve by
setting the boundaries?


You want to make sure that the boundaries have positive
outcomes/rewards when they are followed. Positive reinforcement
is such a powerful strategy with our kids. Our goal is always to
help them begin to understand the cause and effect from the
boundaries.


When you are establishing new boundaries and following through
with them, it is a process and I promise you, they will struggle.
 By following thru and doing what you say and adhering to
the boundaries you have set time and time again, they will
eventually grasp the concept and it WILL get easier but you have
to commit to being consistent AND you have to be prepared and
anticipate that it will get harder before it gets easier.


We want them to understand that the boundaries are to help them
learn to control their emotional responses in a more appropriate
manner, to understand that in life, they won’t always get what
they want and that every one of us, as human beings, all have
boundaries that we have to follow in life.


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