95. Your Child Refusing to Cooperate

For some of our kids who might have limited language cooperating
is extra challenging because they might not understand the
directions of what exactly you want them to do and if you are
giving them multi-step directions, this creates more overwhelm
for them when you are asking them to do too many things at once.


Many of our children have deficits with executive functioning
skills and multi-step directions require them to utilize that
skill that they simply just might not have available to them,
right?


When our children don’t understand the reason for the request
they are resistant. If it doesn’t make sense to them they might
not comply. You might find it helpful to explain the reasoning
behind the request or even better the outcome after they comply.


Don’t give in just because you get resistance or you will be
teaching them that resistance wins every time, right? If they
resist, you won’t require them to do it.  When we allow
their behaviors to get them out of doing a non-preferred activity
or something that you are asking them to do, it teaches them a
habit that you absolutely don’t want to teach.


Many of our kiddos also get frustrated when they can’t manage
their strong emotions when they are asked to do something they
don’t want to do so they act out and resist your request.


Always give them encouragement and high fives or hugs when they
are cooperating or doing what you ask.


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Additional Resources:


Episode 92. Slow Processing Impacts Everyday Life


Episode 40. The Impact of Mind Blindness