109. Why Waiting is So Difficult

Delayed gratification is the ability to give up immediate
pleasure to get a greater reward in the future.  The good
news is that delayed gratification is a skill that anyone can
learn although, for our children, like so many other things,
their learning curve is sure to be greater, and mastering the
skill will likely take considerably longer to accomplish.


The first thing I want to do is recommend that you start small.
Delay their gratification for a very short period so they begin
to connect the dots that while they had to wait, it was worth it.
 The next thing is to make rules within your family that
help model delayed gratification and talk about WHY you are
waiting and what is on the other side of that wait and how much
better that will be.


Teach your child gratitude.  The truth is, delayed
gratification comes naturally when you are practicing gratitude.


What’s important in teaching our children this skill set is
consistency just like so many things we are teaching them. Once
you figure out which strategies work best for your child,
practice them over and over in different settings.


These strategies will change as your child gets older and like I
said earlier, some of them will be a big no for you and your
child, but again, as you continue to implement and try different
strategies to help them, the difficult times will begin to be
less frequent.


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Additional Resources:


Episode 16. Autism and Impulse Control


Episode 89.  Calming Down Big Emotions