120. Our Relationship with our Autistic Children

In order for you to embrace your relationship with your autistic
children, you have to first accept that it isn't going to look
like or probably even resemble the relationship you have with
your other child or children or the relationship you have with
your own mother.  


The mother-child relationship is a unique bond that lays the
foundation for a child's physical, emotional and social
development and when you add in autism, it creates a layer of
confusion for us as their parent.  Maybe your child is
non-verbal or limited verbally or struggles to connect
emotionally or physically or both.  


Many of us are just longing to have the more traditional
closeness that we have with our other children or our own mother.
 If you stay stuck in that place of wishing it were
different, you will never accept and love it for what it is.
   


What if you just accepted that it isn't going to look like any
other relationship in your life?  What would that mean for
you?  


Our children often think, speak and behave differently and
because of that, we don't always know how to connect with them.
 Guess, take a guess and try it.  


What I do want you to do is TRY something, then TRY something
different and then one more time, TRY something again. This
journey is full of changes and ups and downs.  Just because
he doesn’t want to do it now, doesn’t mean that in 6 months or a
year, he might not love it.


My relationship with Jordan looks NOTHING like my relationship
with Maddie and honestly, it never has.


You have to do the work to believe that your child loves you
because if you spend your time wondering or questioning, if you
are asking yourself if she really loves you or how come he
doesn’t ever tell me he loves me, your brain will always give you
evidence of what you are asking.


I spent years asking myself those questions, the wrong questions,
and when I finally realized that if I just changed the narrative
I had with myself I felt so much better and it changed my life.
 I stopped wondering, I stopped doubting and questioning
because I decided on purpose what I was going to choose to
believe. 


You can get there.  Be willing to do the work.  


If you want to get to know me a little better and learn how to
reduce your stress and overwhelm be sure to register for our
upcoming webinar.  


Click the link below for all the details:


https://www.notyouraverageautismmom.com/webinar


Additional Resources:


41. Emotional Ups and Downs of Raising a Child with Autism


60. The Most Important Relationship in your Autism Parenting
Journey


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