122. It Happens, You are Human

Many of us find ourselves judging ourselves when our kid's
actions or behaviors take us right to the end of our rope, right?
 Have you ever been there? I know you have because all kids,
whether they are on the spectrum or not seem to find a way to get
on our very last nerve sometimes, don’t they?


I want to help you not only get through those times without
losing your mind or at least thinking you are going to but I want
to explain a little bit about how and why this happens.


I have spent years learning how our brains work and fortunately
for me, I am fascinated by this work and always want to learn and
understand more.  I am going to share with you some
strategies that you can use starting today to lower the emotional
temperature in those moments.


There is an easier way and so much of it comes down to your
engagement, how you act or react to or with them in these moments
which is what I want to talk about today.


Do you ever think they are doing it to you or that they never
listen to you or that they are just manipulative? Let me tell
you, your thoughts and your words are very powerful and even if
you don’t say them out loud, it is likely that your kid feels the
negative energy in your body language.


It’s important that we stop assuming why they are doing what they
are doing or not doing what we want them to do because when we
assume we know, it leads us to feel resentment which ultimately
leads us to react in a way that we don’t want to.


Get curious about what you are thinking about their behavior
because you are reacting the way you are because of your past
experiences, because of your thoughts, because of the story you
have created, not because of their behavior.


I promise, if you are willing to do the work on yourself, this
entire parenting journey, even in the most chaotic times will be
a lot easier for you to navigate.


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Additional Resources:


Episode 96. Our Parenting Journey is Different


Episode 74. You Cannot Fix All the Things All the Time