141. The Lying Paradox: Exploring Truth & Autism

I am going to explore some reasons why our children might lie and
why it is important for you to recognize when you find yourself
feeling betrayed or angry or frustrated when it happens.


As parents, we know our children on the spectrum face unique
challenges in communication, social understanding, and
problem-solving skills.


Lying becomes an easier way out for them because it allows them
to navigate situations that feel overwhelming or confusing.


Most often, kids lie to avoid trouble. If they don’t have another
way out, and because our kids often have challenges with
forward-thinking and their executive functioning skills are
lacking, rather than suffer the consequences, they lie to avoid
getting into trouble.


They don’t have the skill set necessary to deal with a problem or
conflict or problem solve. Sometimes it’s the only way they know
how to solve a problem.


Reinforce the understanding that lying will not change the
situation.


So to them, it’s a survival skill, albeit a faulty one.


Talk about the consequences of lying and how it can impact trust
in relationships. Reinforce the importance of honesty and set
clear expectations moving forward. Lying is a problem–solving
issue. Lying is a lack of skills issue and an avoiding
consequences issue.


Your children lying is not a result of your failed parenting.
Your child isn't lying to hurt you. Your kids are not broken and
you are not a terrible parent.


This journey isn’t easy.


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