When Ward Members Struggle with Adult Children | An Interview with Bonnie Lyman

Bonnie Lyman has a BA in Elementary Education, is the parent of
five "grown up kids", and a certified life coach. She has served as
a ward Relief Society, Primary, and Young Women president, as a
stake Young Women president and Primary counselor, a youth Sunday
School, Primary, and Relief Society teacher, and as a mission
medical coordinator and a music coordinator. Bonnie and her husband
served in the Kenya Nairobi Mission as service missionaries before
she launched her coaching business in 2019, and she now works with
women struggling in their relationships with their adult children.
Highlights 02:15 Introduction to Bonnie and her mission with her
husband. 04:30 Bonnie talks about what she does and navigating life
with adult children. 08:15 Bonnie talks about the biggest concerns
that parents have with adult children. Most parents are concerned
about their children leaving the Church and how to deal with it.
11:45 As parents to adult children remember that your only job is
to love them. 12:15 One of the biggest things that parents of adult
children struggle with is their children’s choices. They think that
their children’s choices are a reflection of their parenting. 19:00
Remember that your kids have agency. As parents we get stuck
knowing what our responsibility is as a parent and when to let our
kids exercise their agency. 21:30 Sometimes we have to surrender to
God and remember that He is the all knowing parent. We have to stay
out of God’s business. 25:30 Bonnie gives her advice on how parents
can deal with different behaviors from not moving out to drugs and
alcohol. 31:50 We depend too much on our adult children to meet our
needs. We are responsible for fulfilling our own needs. For
example: Wanting equal time for holidays Wanting your children to
call you everyday 34:35 How Bonnie would coach a parent wanting
their children to fulfill their needs. Identify what they were
feeling and the thought that was creating that feeling 40:45 What
can parents do who have children who have completely severed the
relationship? 46:50 What kind of a relationship do you have with
yourself? The more you accept yourself, the more you can accept
others for who they are. Links BonnieLyman.com Podcast: Loving on
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